We gave our bodies to the men we were in love with, believing that that was the way to make them love us and want to marry us, just as we had seen on television growing up. But without the security of marriage and the sure knowledge that he will always stay with us, it’s not even enjoyable!
That’s the irony. It was just a waste. It leaves you in tears.
Speaking as one woman to another, I believe that you understand that already. Because only a woman can truly understand what’s in another woman’s heart. We really are all alike. Our race, religion or nationalities do not matter. A woman’s heart is the same everywhere.
We love. That’s what we do best. We nurture our families and give comfort and strength to the men we love. But we American women have been fooled into believing that we are happiest having careers, our own homes in which to live alone, and freedom to give our love away to whomever we choose. That is not freedom. And that is not love.
Only in the safe haven of marriage can a woman’s body and heart be safe to love. Don’t settle for anything less. It’s not worth it.
You won’t even like it and you’ll like yourself even less afterwards. Then he’ll leave you."
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is handaling a haram work? please give me ans.
As Salaamu Alaikum,
I am not sure what "handaling" means...
nice expanation
also, if you have premarital sex, you'll develop a greed for it which will act like money, the more money you obtain, the more you want. the same acts for this, the more sexual reltionship, the more you want. we have witnessed this many times in history (ie shah parviz of iran).
since you develop a greed, it'll disturb your family relationship as well. for example when you reamin with your wife for a couple of years your developed greed interferes by you want anothr wife. this leads to a divorce. this is one reason.
also, when you get married you look at your wife as the person who can please you mentally, physically, etc. and vise versa as well. then, if you have developed this greed your pleasures (again mental pleasures, physical pleasures, family pleasures, etc.) won't be satisfied by just one person(namely, your wife or husband), it'll be 100's of people like one day a blonde, another a brunette, etc.
therfore, what Allah (swt) has said for us is for teh benefit of us, for his name is Al-rahman , al-raheem. he wouldn't want anything that would hurt us, but rather something that would benefit us. right?
inshallah allah will guide us all
please pray for me
wa alaikum al salam
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